Anita leaves rehab unit
Anita has decided she had had enough of staying in Rayners Hedge and left tonight. She had come to the end of her tether after 10 months in there. It wasn’t just that she was in one of her down moods but that she was very determined to leave. From my point of view I have always thought that it was my responsibility to maximise her recovery with respect to her gaining the maximum independence possible. Knowing Anita as well as I do she won’t ever take well to having people do things for her. Therefore I have been determined that she gets as much chance possible to improve her movement and RH was the best place to do this. I guess there is little point though in staying in a place that is depressing her so much. She was due to leave RH in March anyway but she has now come home with no support structure in place. Her care and rehab will take some time to sort out. I would have preferred for her to have gone through all the correct procedures for discharge, I pleaded with her but once she makes her mind up she is very resolute. Ultimately she is the one that knows what’s best for herself and I will support that completely. She is aware of the knock-on effects of such a move.
For me it means I have had to make a mental re-adjustment to the situation. Anyone who has been through something similar will know that it is possible to have great drive and focus in these situations but there is actually a lot going on just below the surface. You can come apart at the seams very easily and making mental adjustments is like turning a massive truck around. Just doing the simplest things all of a sudden can become very very hard.
Brain injury is unbelievably hard for the recipient possibly too much for any human being to cope with but also very hard for partners. You don’t climb Everest when you want a real challenge to the human spirit, you get a brain injury.
I personally already feel I have become a much better person for what’s happened and we are both very determined to make the best of things.